Self-centered is heart-centered; self-centered is unconditional love. ~zenshine
The third point of reference is freedom of perception; it is intent; it is spirit; the somersault of thought into the miraculous; the act of reaching beyond our boundaries and touching the inconceivable. ~Carlos Casteneda
This is the place where we trust that what we really want is what is the core of our being, it is a place of love that draws energy into itself and transforms back again, magnified, as love. This desire that we have is real and tangible and free, and when we focus on it instead of on things that we should be doing or being or having, we magnify the energy of love, and miracles happen.
So the core of our being-ness, our authentic self, our original self, is the key. Self-centered is not the same as selfish. There is no place better for us to focus our attention than on our desires, those things that truly bring us joy, because if we scatter our attention to all the "what-if's", and "should-have's", and the "other shoe dropping" and the "if it's too good to be true, it is's", we are fragmenting that power of focus and intent that actually does create miracles.
We may not be able to control our circumstances in this moment, but we can choose how we feel about it if we try. For those who say they have no choice in how they feel, just a little practice will show that they do. I can choose to feel bad about the rain because it's interfering with my plans, or I can choose instead to think about all the good things the rain brings us, and start to feel better right away.
When we choose joy it becomes the path to freedom and love, and anything less than that is pretending that we are powerless, when we are all infinitely powerful beings and a miracle of spirit in a physical presence, creating physically from that place of spirit.