Understanding that we are all one eliminates choosing whose needs are supposed to be more important than our own. ~Zenshine #cZen
I grew up with the teachings of the Christian church, had exhausted parents who sacrificed so we could do better, was constantly reminded that altruism is one of the highest ideals for mankind, and eventually found myself feeling guilty if I didn't put other people's needs first.
And how do you know if you actually are putting others' needs first? We can hope we've picked the exact right thing to do, but the only sure way to tell is if they somehow acknowledge that they are now better off for your having made some sort of sacrifice. This gets very confusing, because we all have so many varying wants and needs that you could spend your whole life sacrificing and never pleasing anyone.
Thanks to my grandfather I knew in my heart that things could be different. He was always happy, lived with the energy of a child, was brilliant, vibrant and wealthy. I don't remember ever seeing him do anything out of guilt, or because he was supposed to put someone else's needs above his own. He just loved and lived the life he wanted. But conditioning being what it is, I lapsed back into forgetting his example most of the time.
When I started my yoga and meditation practice, slowly it dawned on me that if we are all truly one, when I do something that pleases me, it benefits everyone. Let me explain lest I sound like I'm promoting selfishness--the difference comes when we 'sacrifice' the ego to the authentic self that is the bigger, deeper self or soul, and we become self-centered, balanced. When I do something that benefits me, I am talking about benefiting the authentic me that is connected with the energy that is in each of us.
That way, when I live my life authentically, I naturally stay with the energy that connects us all, which is the energy of the heart, or love, appreciation, joy. Science tells us that we are all made of electro-magnetic energy, and that the energy projected from our hearts is measured to be 5,000 times more powerful than the energy projected by our brains. That makes the heart the seat of our power, and love the most healthy and beneficial expression of that power.
So when we say we are all one, we're still individuals with a unique personality and unique gifts and desires, but we are able now, more and more, to connect with our 'authentic' self and its tremendous power that is beneficial not just to us but to everyone around us. Staying in the authentic self means that we are willing and able to let go of what the ego wants in favor of understanding the desires of our soul.
Living in the power of love is the most blissful experience I have ever come into, and as Joseph Campbell said, 'Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.'
I want to introduce you to some of my mentors who have helped me express my authentic self, my inner being, and the love that I want to share with you. These are people who light the way, and I am deeply grateful for their influence. To Kalyn and Kristopher Raphael (K2) http://lawsofabundance.com, Abraham-Hicks www.abraham-hicks.com, Gregg Braden www.greggbraden.com, Hemal Radia http://www.manifestingandlawofattraction.com/, Maja