In order to honor the divine feminine and masculine in each of us, we must first honor the divine child and get dirty. ~zenshine
Adults are always asking little kids what they want to be when they grow up because they're looking for ideas. ~Paula Poundstone
My own prescription for health is less paperwork and more runnin g barefoot through the grass. ~Leslie Grimutter
Don Miguel Ruiz talks about it in his books, “The Four Agreements” and “The Fifth Agreement”: domestication. It’s what we do to animals either lovingly or not, to make it easier for us to live with them. It’s also what we do to our children.
As a child, you were taught right away what your parents believed to be ‘right’ and what they believed to be ‘wrong’. They taught us their beliefs through repetition day in and day out, because that’s what they were taught, and because they believed that if they didn’t teach us they would be guilty of neglect. But they taught us mainly because it made it easier for them to live with us inside their own limitations. They believed it made us more lovable.
Domestication takes hold of us at a very early age, and we ‘forget’ who we really are in our trying to please others and be someone we are not. We lie to ourselves without even knowing it, and we lie to others without really meaning to. We seek love outside of ourselves and believe that approval of others is love.
So now how do we find our way back to our authentic self? Awareness. Self-love. Repetition. It took just a few years for our parents and others to domesticate us, and then we ourselves took over the task.
When we become aware, even just a little, of how much of our beliefs have nothing to do with who we really are, that is a start. How do we become aware? Usually it’s through the pain of separation—we feel different, unloved, or unacceptable at some point in our lives because we are fragmented, fractured, alienated, by the domestication process.
But when we realize that the only separation is between us and our authentic self, that we have betrayed our true nature, and that we are alien beings only because we don’t recognize who we truly are, we can start to let go and see what’s left. In that space is who we really are, a place of authenticity, a place of true love. The only way back to that authentic self is through self-love.
Awareness. Recognize that what’s left when you strip away all the domestication beliefs is who you truly are. Self-love. Practice self-love for who you are in this very moment no matter what is happening and no matter what others say or do. Since you don’t recognize who you are yet, practice self-love blindly, absolutely. Love yourself passionately, fiercely, without judgment, in total acceptance, absolute approval, unconditionally.
Repeat. Repetition is how you became alienated in the first place. It only took a few years before you took it as truth and practiced it as if it were your own. They are only beliefs—they are not the true you. Your practice from now on is to be relentless in your pursuit of self-love, and there your true nature, your authentic self, will begin to unfold and bloom.
There you will find bliss. There you will find unconditional love without judgment. There you will fill up with love until it overflows and expands out to everyone around you, and there….finally there….you will be recognized and loved for who you truly are. In this place, just being is enough. Just being you is love.